I Sent My Mother $1.5 Million Pesos Every Month to Care for My Wife After Childbirth — Then I Came Home Early and Found Her Eating Spoiled Rice With Fish Heads

12. I Made a Decision About the Household Money

That evening, I told my mother that the arrangement had to change immediately.

I would no longer send her money without knowing how it was being used.

I would take responsibility for purchasing the groceries and baby supplies myself.

I also arranged for Hue to have access to money for her personal needs without having to ask anyone’s permission.

My mother was furious.

She said I was humiliating her in her own family.

But I reminded her that the purpose of the money had never been to give her control over my wife.

It was supposed to help someone who had just gone through childbirth.

I also made it clear that Hue would not be expected to eat food that was unsafe or unsuitable.

If my mother wanted to help, she could do so respectfully.

If she didn’t, we would make other arrangements.

I wasn’t asking her to choose between me and my wife.

I was asking her to treat another human being with basic kindness.